GRAY MATTERS
Notes, News & Musings on Elder Care
How come we seldom seem to achieve the goals we set for ourselves? Join your Life Care Team for a very special program on setting “SMART” goals for the New Year!
THURSDAY- DECEMBER 15, 2011-3:30-4:30
44931 Homberg Drive
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Join your Life Care Team for this special holiday presentation on
Thursday, November 17, 2011
4:00-5:00 PM
4931 Homberg Drive
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Join your Life Care Team for this very special program on
Thursday, September 15, 2011 from 4:00 to 5:00 PM
4931 Homberg Drive; Knoxville, TN 37919
Join your Life Care Team at the Elder Law Practice of
Monica Franklin, CELA
for this special educational program on Thursday, August 11, 2011
from 4-5:30 pm at 4931 Homberg Drive in Knoxville.
RSVP 865-588-3700
Join us for a Special Presentation: Getting the Most from Your Doctor Visits – Good Healthcare for older adults is an essential and often a complex matter. We are all familiar with the frustrations of long waits and short visits at the doctor’s office. Physicians face similar frustrations with the demands and constraints of the medical practice sometimes in conflict with the needs of patients. In an environment where the patient may feel pretty helpless, there are effective strategies to help you to improve the quality and the substance of your doctor visits. Join us to learn practical tools and techniques to take charge in improving your own healthcare and your satisfaction as a healthcare consumer.
THURSDAY JULY 15 from 4-5 pm; 4931 HOMBERG DRIVE, KNOXVILLE, TN 37919
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Call the Director of Nurses!
Entrusting your fragile, dependent loved one to strangers upon whom she will depend for the most basic and intimate necessities of life, most likely for the rest of her life, is a difficult process. There are oodles of layers and dynamics of all kinds which complicate our best intentions to be effective advocates: Guilt? Sadness? Helplessness? And oh so, so many more issues.
Nobody likes to complain, and some folks are downright intimidated by the process. Fears of retaliation, even when entirely unfounded are powerful drivers of inaction… “I don’t want to make waves or upset anybody…it might come back on Momma.”
“I hate to bother them…it’s such a little thing…” Instead of the direct communication route, some families will step in and take care of issues or needs themselves with nary a whimper. The intent is to be understanding/ forgiving/ helpful because staff [always] seems so overworked. Or a more irritated and righteous “Never Mind, I’ll do it myself!” approach may be adopted. There’s also pouting, sarcasm and silent suffering or just plain wimping out. Befriending staff, offering tips, or bringing goodies in hopes that this will curry special favor and result in more or better attention for loved ones will not succeed.
Complaining to the CNA’s, other families, or your neighbors and friends about the terrible care is yet another ineffective approach to addressing care concerns.
So where does the rubber meet the road? The Director of Nurses.
Nursing Home Administrators are of course very interested in your concerns. But to address those issues, they’re gonna call the DON! So start there. Yes, these are very busy people indeed. Worried about bothering them with what might be a kinda petty complaint? Don’t! There is really no such thing. My experience has been that folks tend to save up the little stuff. While the intent is to overlook/ “understand” and/ or forgive, in truth those items are stored. Then, when enough of these “little things” occur, and /or add a big thing or a different thing happens later, that first lil ol’ thing is marched out too. This usually takes place in the wake of a now massive wave of unhappiness.
Unfortunately, the lil-now big-thing is past history, and evidence and accountability may be inaccessible. This is extremely frustrating to all those highly motivated to address the problems.
It is great to bring goodies. Don’t expect a thank you note, and don’t expect better care. Show respect to care providers –but remember: you aren’t a hostage. As in any relationship, finding the good and blowing on those coals will help to warm the room, and encourage better care from the staff.
You may also contact the facility Ombudsman. Information on how to do this is provided on admission and posted prominently in all facilities. However, the Ombudsman is gonna say: “Have your spoken to the DON?”
Here’s the thing: We have a limited number of nursing homes in our community. While some are fancier than others, the rules and regulations and expectations for care are exactly the same for them all. And whether fancy or plain, they all face the same challenges as healthcare providers to a fragile, vulnerable population with very complex needs.
When care does not meet expectations reporting those problems must be as prompt as possible. Remember how the Sheriff always liked it best when the trail was warm? This enables more effective fact-finding and accountability.
I like putting my concerns in writing. This documentation formalizes your expectations for accountability and provides a tidy way to keep track.
Ultimately, ”success” takes a spirit of being on the same side. Remember: It is in everyone’s best interest that the nursing home staff succeeds. This means timely, direct, respectful communication. Start with the Director of Nurses.
A book we have found to be really helpful that we provide to our Life Care Plan clients is called 20 Common Nursing Home Problems and How to Resolve Them, by Eric Carlson, Esq., available through the National Senior Citizens Law Center. Mr. Carlson recommends: “Be the Squeaky Wheel!”
Kumbayah!
The first time I saw this lil’ bit o’terrorism was years ago in the admissions office of a nursing home. Yes, really. Ugh!
Inclined to consider meaning and motivation, my efforts to understand and somehow articulate the significance of this “message” in that setting made my head hurt then, as it does now.
But this is what I really want to share: For the most part, neither you nor your kids will “choose” your nursing home. Your nursing home will more likely be choosing you. Now I encourage you to continue to try to discover some reasonable motivation to be nice to your kids, but in this one regard, they mostly won’t get much of a say.
“We cannot meet your needs” may be the admission director’s response to families with loved ones who have a history of “behavioral issues,” such as agitation, combativeness, or just peaceful exit seeking. Those with complex, major wounds and those with some forms of Methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus Aureus (MRSA) or Vancomycin-Resistant Enterococci (VRE) have needs that some facilities are unable to adequately address. Ventilator or dialysis patients, those undergoing chemotherapy treatment for cancer, and even organ transplant, AIDs patients, and others needing expensive drugs may have difficulty finding placement.
Another patient category having trouble finding placement? Surprise, surprise: those who are not in need of skilled care. Waiting lists for admission to intermediate/ long term residential care in the nursing home often either extend beyond most folks’ life expectancies or just don’t exist. Some Medicare Advantage Plans are also not accepted at some skilled care facilities.
Most folks think that when the time comes, they will just mosey on over to their chosen facilities and sign up. Think again. And tell your kids to behave on the tour! Rowdy family members can jinx an admission as well.
So what to do? When care in the nursing home –either short or long term- is going to be necessary, your New Best Friend is your hospital discharge planner! Request an introduction as soon as possible after admission to the hospital when you know –or even suspect- that additional care will likely be needed at discharge. These folks really know the long term care “lay of the land” and are able to guide families in accessing the best available care. And remember, they too may hit many a dead end before finding the right placement. Breathe deeply.
Faith United Methodist Church will host “Caring for Your Parents” on Sunday, March 27 from 2-4 pm. Adult children with aging parents will especially benefit from this free program sponsored by the Office on Aging’s One Call Club, Covenant Health Senior Services, the Mercy Health Partners Geriatric Assessment Program, and the Elder Law Practice of Monica Franklin.
“Caring for Your Parents” is designed to educate, support and empower caregiver children. Our panel of experts consists of Diana Nelson, Geriatric Nurse Practitioner; Monica Franklin, Certified Elder Law Attorney; the Reverend Dr. Paul Humphrey, and Susie Stiles, Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Discussion will include information on the changing needs of older adults, the challenges of the caregiver child, the legal and financial issues at hand, and the role of faith and community in coping with caregiving.
Faith United Methodist Church is located on the corner of Dry Gap Pike and Rifle Range Road at 1120 Dry Gap Pike, Knoxville, TN. (865) 688-1000 www.faithseekers.org RSVP at 524-2786
Heartening news from the Center for MedicareAdvocacy:
WASHINGTON — Two federal courts have ruled that the Obama administration is using overly strict standards to determine whether older Americans are entitled to Medicare coverage of skilled nursing home care and home health care.
Medicare will pay for those services if they are needed to maintain a person’s ability to perform routine activities of daily living or to prevent deterioration of the person’s condition, the courts said. Medicare beneficiaries do not have to prove that their condition will improve, as the government sometimes contends, the courts said.
The rulings are potentially significant for many people with chronic conditions and disabilities like multiple sclerosis, Alzheimer’s disease and broken hips. Skilled care may be reasonable and necessary and covered by Medicare even if the person’s condition is stable and unlikely to improve, the courts said.
This is MOMENTOUS! Or at least it should be. Where are the fireworks and the brass bands? Since this is a clarification of the rules rather than a rule change, it is immediately effective. I am wondering if anyone is noticing any ripples in referrals and treatment plans?
Go to www.medicareadvocacy.org for the entire NY Times article, more information about Medicare coverage, dealing with barriers to access, and even denial appeal kits.
The Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (ACA), with its focus on prevention, ushers in many improvements to Medicare. For example, Medicare will now pay for an annual wellness visit during which the beneficiary may receive a comprehensive health risk assessment and develop a personalized prevention plan. There is also improved cost-sharing for a laundry list of Medicare preventive services including: bone mass measurement, breast cancer screening/mammograms, abdominal aortic aneurysm, flu shots, Hepatitis B shots, prostate cancer screening and smoking cessation counseling. To learn more, go here.
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